Tuesday, June 5, 2012

It's Official!

This morning was our adoption ceremony and Ding Cheng officially became Michael Ding Grover! It felt so good to finally hold the adoption decree and know that the little boy that has been our son in our hearts for over a year was now finally legally ours! So, in lieu of a baby announcement….

Jennifer and James Grover
Would like to announce the adoption of their son
Michael Ding Grover
Adopted in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, China
June 5, 2012




To celebrate, we took Michael to West Lake and road a boat to Three Moon Island. Michael loved running around, yelling all sorts of things in Chinese that everyone else on the island could understand except for us. Hmmmm….a little awkward. He loves to have his picture taken and always holds up two fingers and yells, “Chiesay” (“Cheese!”) He is such a ham!

Monday, June 4, 2012

"Gotcha" Day!

There have been seven times in my life that I have fallen instantly in love with someone, the kind of love that changes your life and you realize that the relationship is eternal and that you would do anything in the world for this person. The first time was when I met my James and knew that we would be together forever, four times were when each of my birth children were placed in my arms as they came straight from Heaven, once in an orphanage in Kazakhstan when I looked over the side of a crib to see our beautiful Lauren and her huge brown eyes, and once on the floor of a Chinese Civil Affairs building where I was finally able to hold the little boy who’s photo on the Internet had stolen our hearts a year earlier. Today was the eighth time.

When we arrived at the Civil Affairs building, the orphanage staff had already arrived with Michael. We weren’t prepared for that! I couldn’t run fast enough down the hall to the room where I knew he was. We opened the door and there he was sitting in a chair eating a snack that the orphanage had put into his backpack. I didn’t want to frighten him so I just kneeled down in front of him and started to quietly talk to him. I was trying so hard not to cry! I didn’t want to scare him by crying, but I just couldn’t believe that we were together! After talking to him for just a minute or two, he reached into his backpack and pulled out a photo album that we had sent him along with a family photo that the orphanage had labeled for him. Michael pointed to the photo of me and said, “Mama”, then he pointed at me and said, “Mama.” Then he pointed at the photo of James and said, “Papa” and then pointed at James and said, “Papa.” My heart completely felt like it was going to explode! He then pointed at the photos of each of his new brothers and sisters and called them the Chinese names for big brother and big sister. He even pointed at Jacob and said, “Yi Chen” (Jacob’s Chinese name). And just like that, we were a family.

I can’t believe how natural this transition has been for Michael. He spent the rest of the day calling us “Mama” and “Papa,” reaching for our hands, and snuggling with us. He is also so smart! I was not prepared for that either! He speaks Chinese fluently and has all sorts of little songs and dances that he likes to perform throughout the day. By the end of the day, he had learned several English words and uses them appropriately. He can even repeat his siblings’ names! His fine motor skills are incredible and he draws Chinese characters. He is such a happy little boy! The highlight for me was that at the end of our first day together, Michael kissed me and said, “wo ai ni, Mama” (“I love you, Mama”). He did the same for James. We are so in love with this perfect little boy! He is such a gift! He is incredible in every way and we will be forever grateful that we have been given the honor of being his parents.

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Ready or not...here we come!

After waiting for a year to finally be able to travel to bring home Michael, we left on Friday, June 1st. The special thing about that date was that it was Children’s Day in China, a day where children are celebrated much like mothers are celebrated on Mother’s Day. The trip was extremely long, but went very smoothly and we arrived in Hangzhou about 36 hours after our take off in Salt Lake…and we actually arrived with all of our luggage! It is nice to be back in China. There is a small part of me that feels like I am “home” when I am here. I suppose that I feel that way because our two precious sons are from here. It is a wonderful country with delightful people. The only problem is that it is so far away from our children in Utah! We were able to Skype with
the kids and that made us feel a little closer to them. Tomorrow we will travel to the Civil Affairs building where we will be reunited with our sweet Michael! We are so excited that I doubt that we will be able to sleep tonight, even if we are COMPLETLEY sleep deprived! We just can’t believe that we are actually here and just a few miles away from Michael!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Final Step!

It feels like it has been an eternity since we started the adoption process for Michael! I was beginning to think that I would never be able to write this post, BUT THE TIME HAS FINALLY ARRIVED! As of last night, not only do we have confirmed appointments at the Consulate, but we have purchased our plane tickets as well! Now we can check off #18 on our process checklist and move onto the final step….TRAVELING TO BRING OUR MICHAEL HOME!!! I guess this means that we better start packing!!

Monday, May 7, 2012

Travel Approval!

Drum Roll Please...our Travel Approval has arrived from China! This means that the CCCWA (Chinese Center for Children’s Welfare and Adoption) and the United States government have put a final approval on all paperwork and given us permission to travel to bring Michael home! Our agency is in the process of scheduling our appointments at the Consulate in Guangzhou. We will hopefully get confirmation from the Consulate later this week and WE WILL BUY OUR PLANE TICKETS!!! Check off #17 on our process checklist! We are less than a month away from holding our little Michael!

Friday, April 27, 2012

Brittany's Hope Foundation

As we are preparing to travel to bring Michael home, we are getting ready to send in funds for our matching grant from Brittany’s Hope. I just wanted to once again thank Brittany’s Hope for not only their $2,500 matching grant towards Michael’s adoption (www.brittanyshope.org/seedling/Grover), but also for the incredible work that they do advocating for orphans around the world. This foundation has been an absolute pleasure to work with and I am grateful for their dedication to these important little people and the families who are trying to bring them home.

The following story comes from the Brittany's Hope website and shares how and why the foundation was created.

“Brittany's Hope Foundation was created in January 2000 for the purpose of advocating for orphaned special needs children who are longing for the love of a family. Our foundation was inspired by our first adopted child, Brittany who we adopted when she was 12 years old. While Brittany was home for Christmas break in January 1999, during her senior year in college, her life was tragically cut short as a result of a car accident.

She was pursuing a career in social work and hoped to help waiting children find loving families. As we reflected upon the person that Brittany was and the work that she planned to do, we remembered a conversation she shared shortly before her death. She stated she "dreamed of a world where all children know the peace and love only a family can provide."

Although Brittany was unable to pursue her dreams, we wanted to honor her life by beginning the work she intended. As a result, Brittany's Hope Foundation was born. We believe every child deserves to know the love and security only a family can provide; our foundation reflects this passion. Through our work, we advocate for children who would likely spend their lives in an orphanage as a result of a disability or simply because they are older than the more desirable infant. Sometimes our advocacy means the difference between whether or not the child even survives, such as our heart baby cases. Although we are a small organization, we provide hope and love to children from around the world by helping them find their forever families.”

Brittany’s Hope Foundation is a non-profit 501(c)(3) foundation. One hundred percent of all donations are used to provide adoption financial grants or fund humanitarian efforts that benefit the children who are left behind, arranging for surgeries, safe cribs, formula, and education and transitional housing for older orphans. To learn more, visit www.brittanyshope.org

Birthday and Article 5!

Many things have happened since our last post…including a NASTY computer virus that caused me to be without a computer for several weeks. The first event took place on April 7th. Our little Michael turned 8 years old. I wish that I could tell you that it was a happy celebration in our home, we tried to make it happy… but it just wasn’t. There were many tears as we sang “Happy Birthday” to his little picture and blew out his birthday candles on the cake. I was completely unaware, eight years ago, that clear on the other side of the world one of my precious sons had entered this life. I think the hardest part of Michael’s birthday this year was knowing that HE was completely unaware that he had eight people in Lehi, Utah who were celebrating his birth….celebrating that this extraordinary little boy had come to earth and was going to be part of their forever family. I can’t tell you how badly I wish that I had been there at Michael’s birth. I think of that often with not only him, but also with Jacob and Lauren. How much I would have loved to be there to hold them as newborns. I wish that I could have fed them, bathed them, been there for their first smile, first tooth, first step. That is the difficult part. So, we were absolutely devastated that we missed another of Michael’s birthdays but we anxiously look forward to his 9th birthday when we can celebrate his life TOGETHER!!

The second thing that has happened since our last post was that the Consulate issued our Article 5 on April 24th! It is now at the offices of the CCCWA and we are awaiting travel approval. We anticipate that this will be issued by mid May. This step is #16 on our Process List. I love checklists! They allow me to see progress! And the progress on this checklist is making me one happy mom!!